Some Interesting Information

so i went to the courthouse on friday like my paralegal had said to go, because i had to sign the form saying that i had no money, that way the court could waive the usual court costs of $364. this was at least what she was telling me, was that being that i get medicaid and am not working right now, that i wouldnt have to pay that fee. so we had that money saved and were going to use that for groceries and gas for the next few months. but when we went to the courthouse it was a different story, they said that they dont do that anymore, and havent done that for a couple of years. so that means that in order to file, everyone, no matter what their financial situation is, has to pay that $364 fee, so we just took the money that we had been saving and paid it. which sucked, and upset me a huge amount. because we really needed that money for the next few months, until we got our tax returns back. this paralegal is really annoying me, i regret that i went to her to do this for me, because she seems so incompetent lately that it isnt even funny. and then to make that even worse, she put her home address on all the papers to the court, so that frankies dad would have no way of knowing what my real address was, but she was supposed to attach a note giving my real address, she didnt attach the note, so know all of my mail from the court is supposed to be going to her, which isnt good, because who knows if i will actually get it on time or when needed, and how long it will take. but anyway, i filed everything with the court now, and they are all paid up, so as far as i know that step is done, and the divorce process is now going to be starting. hopefully she didnt screw anything else up.

ever since my daughter came back from being out of the country, she has had such the attitude on her, doesnt want to listen and is talking back really badly. so she has been getting on my nerves and getting me so upset with her with how she hasnt been lisitening and i have had to yell at her to get her to listen and then she yells back and gives me attitude, it is absolutely incredible. my only guess is that when she was in trinidad with her dad, and with all his family, they spoiled the heck out of her, and gave her anything she wanted and let her do anything she wanted, so now she is used to that. i told her she better straighten out because that wasnt the way that it was here. because if she doesnt straighten out she is going to be punished and keep being punished.

more recent information on the frankie's dads girlfriend thing. the other night i had talked to his dad while he was outside and away from her, and he was telling me that he was really in love with her, and that she was beautiful, and that she did everything for him, she cooked, cleaned, helped him take care of frankie, and paid all the bills, and that she had told him that i was dumb for getting rid of him, and that he could get better and rest, and she would pay everything for him. he also said that she wanted to get married, and i asked him if she had kids already, and he said one boy that lives with his father in another state, which i thought was interesting why wouldnt the child be with the mother, but i didnt comment about that. i said well you better make sure that you dont get her pregnant, or you'll be screwed and he told me that he already might have, because she told him that she didnt have her pills to take, and he had came inside her anyway a couple of times. so that wasnt smart on his part, unless he wanted to get her pregnant, which i doubt. he said that he wasnt that crazy about getting married again, considering that when you get married things change and people change, and considering his history with marriage. she doesnt know that though, she wants him to get divorced so that they could get married. he said to me that being that i am in no hurry to get married, and neither is he in a hurry to get divorced because then she would want to marry him, that maybe we should stay married, so that we wouldnt have to marry anyone else. i laughed and didnt answer him, that isnt an option for me. i dont want to stay married to him just so that i cant marry anyone else. and then he even said something about telling the judge that he is still in love with me and that he is sure that at some point we will get together again, just so that we dont get divorced now. but i dont think so, i wouldnt do that just to stay married to him, so that i dont have to marry anyone else. i answered him regarding her saying that i was the dumb one for getting rid of him, and said that to me she is the dumb one right now, because she is paying everything for him, when he is able bodied (a hurt foot doesnt mean that you cant work) and can work. i wouldnt do that, i would want you to pay at least half of the bills, and pull your own weight, not sit at home on your butt and do nothing. i dont think so. so to me she is the dumb one for doing that. and then he said oh well when i am better with my foot i am going to start working again, somehow i doubt that, we would see how long it took him to get a job, and then how long he could keep it for, knowing his past history unless he changes which i so seriously doubt. so how the girlfriend thing was bothering me before, it isnt bothering me like it was. because i am just glad that it isnt me with him right now.