Getting Worse And Not Better

so okay we all know that frankie's dad isnt the most responsible person that we have all heard of, that is for sure, that much is known. but there has never really came a time, at least anytime recently anyway, where i could say that his not being responsible has affected the health or welfare of my son, at least that i knew of, or could prove anyway. but then came last night, and this morning that are really telling me and showing me something. yesterday i went to pick up frankie from school as i usually do on a wednesday, and i picked him at 4:30pm. and he gets in the car, and immediately is saying, i should say whining loudly that he is hungry. so luckily we had actually been planning on getting him something to eat when we left his school anyway, so we get to the restaurant that we are going to eat at, and we sit down, and he is still whining and very upset saying that he is hungry, and i asked him if he had eaten lunch and he said no. so knowing that his father had him in the morning, and for some insane reason had decided to bring him to school late, at like 1pm, i asked him if his daddy had given him lunch, and he said no that daddy had given him only a lollipop and that was it. and then i asked him if he had eaten lunch at school, and he said no that he couldnt. so i was starting to get upset, called his father right then and there, and his father said that he had brought him to school and that he thought it was in time for lunch, and that frankie had probably eaten lunch at school, but that he wasnt sure. so now i am getting really upset, because i am sure that frankie didnt get to eat lunch at all. so i just let it go with his father at that time, because i wanted to make sure with frankies school that he hadnt eaten lunch there. so i talked to the owner/director this morning, and asked her if frankie had eaten lunch there yesterday. and she said that frankie hadnt because he had came to late for lunch. so i explained to her why i was asking her that and she said she didnt see why i didnt have full custody over frankie, and why frank had him the same time as me too. and that frankie needed a stable environment to be in, and that he wasnt getting that from frank. which everyone knows that. so anyway, i called his father and he was being a you know what, and claimed that he had asked frankie if he wanted to eat lunch and frankie had said no, so he hadnt given him any lunch. which isnt the way that it works at all, i always give them something to eat, and unless they are really sick, no matter what they say at first they always end up eating it and that is the way that it should be. so he said that he wouldnt do that, if the kid doesnt want to eat, he doesnt give him food. which is incredibly irresponsible. so i said to him well dont bring frankie to school at 1pm again, because he needs his education and also that way you wont have to worry about feeding him lunch, because the school feeds them lunch. so he said no, he would bring frankie to school whenever he wanted to. and that he didnt have to bring him there in the morning for school, so that right there is another thing, he isnt worried about his sons education or him eating or not he is just worried about himself.

after all of this i called the paralegal who had helped me draw up the papers for the divorce, and asked her being that it had in the papers that he is supposed to be served that it is supposed to be shared custody if i could still get like 75% custody and just let him get 25% or something like that, where he only sees him like 1 or 2 days a week. so she said that i could just explain to the judge that things had changed, and the things that i had been noticing, like this lunch incident and also the fact that he is living in a tiny one bedroom with frankie, himself, and his girlfriend, which is illegal it is only supposed to be two people per bedroom.

i also asked the paralegal about when frankies dad was supposed to get served the papers and she said today. (i talked to her this morning) she said that she had talked to the servers this morning and they had said that they would be doing it today. but i am sure that he didnt get served today because he didnt call me up yelling at me. so i wonder why they didnt serve him today. sigh, oh well.