Some People Seem Like They Will Never Learn

so his dad came over and brought the money orders for him to pay the rent today, and he left it for me, and i went and paid the rent with it. so i talked to him a little bit after that, while he was at work (his night job) and somehow we got on the subject of this never happening again, and that he had to be really careful, and then he made a comment about how if it did he could just borrow from his dad again. so i slightly lost it with him and said first of all if you dont pay him back, he wont ever lend you money again, and then he said that he was going to pay him back like he had told him that he would, and i said second you need to do it on your own and be responsible and not depend on him to help you out. so he got upset with me and said that i was starting with him again, so i said that i couldnt help it if i was because this whole thing had gotten me so upset and worried what did he expect. i cant have this all happen again, i just cant. i cant deal with it. and then yesterday i noticed that the extra 80.00 he had out away for the bills was gone, and i asked him about it, he claimed that he had told me that he was going to be taking it and using it, which he didnt. so i got upset with him about that, cause he just cant save money. so i told him that if he could use that money for himself, that he could help me pay for the night out that we were planning on having with the kids tomorrow night, and then he was getting mad at me because he said that he shouldnt be having to help me pay for that when it was my idea. what bullcrap. and then he said that he had some of the money left over in his wallet, so i looked in his wallet when he went outside and he only had 20.00 left. which is ridiculous, because he has nothing to show for that money, so i can only imagine what he must have done with the money. sigh. i really dont know if he will ever learn. and after he was going on and on a few days ago, about how he wasnt going to spend any extra money, to give you an idea, he was even saying that he was going to stop drinking beer, and smoking cigarettes, i want to have faith in him to do all that, and pull himself out of this, but i have just heard all of this so many times before. anyway enough on that frustrating subject.

now to talk about my friends. the one with the car issue that had agreed to have my husband look at her car, then was accusing him of breaking it, texted me yesterday night, which i actually got this morning, for me to ask my husband if he had used a knife that she kept under her seat that was a gift. so i asked him and he said no, he hadnt seen or used one, and then he got upset because it sounded like she was accusing him of taking it. so she responded okay, i guess the mechanics who worked on my car had taken it. sigh, i swear she has been my friend for a while but she is getting on my last nerve with this crap. i wish he had never offered to be nice and look at her car. then one of my other friends the one that i was talking to, switched to the other line, and never called me back, i talked to today, she said that if she has gas money on saturday and gets paid then, that she would come over and also get the bags of clothes that i have that my kids outgrew. so it isnt that she is just coming over to say hi, she is coming over to get stuff for herself from me, but anyway. then the friend with the car, knew all about the issues that i was having, didnt even bother to ask if everything was okay with that. just went on about her stuff. and other friends who know about the issues and dont care or dont say anything they know who they are, it is just a bunch of b.s. because when you really need people that is when you can see who the true friends are, from the ones who run or dont talk to you, and the ones that help you the best that they can and dont avoid you. like one of my friends, the one i had said that she had said something us staying with her if we had nowhere else to go, and then her husband said something about lending me the 500.00, she mentioned it again today, even after i told her that the rent was paid for this month (and i am hoping that this never happens again), she again said that if i ever found myself with no where else to go that i could stay with her (with my kids). so i was very impressed with that. like i said you figure out who are really good friends and who arent. well, on that note, i am going to try to get some sleep for work tomorrow.