so okay, of course my boyfriend is a man, and i couldnt actually expect him to not have sex with me for more then a few days. he looked in the boxes that are remaining in our bedroom for the ky jelly, of course couldnt find it, but then he gave up on looking for it and decided to just go for it. so i let him, and of course it wasnt as comfortable at all as it would have been with the ky. so i bought it at the store, and gave it to him to put somewhere where it wouldnt be lost. the interesting thing is lately, i am not having orgasms at all with having sex with him, probably because of the limited positions that we can do it in, who knows. but he seems to want it more and more then usual. i dont know. and of course it isnt good for me like it is for him. at all. sigh. i hope that it is the position issue with us, and that is why i am not having orgasms, i hope that this isnt a problem different then that, because then once the baby is born we would still be having the same problem. well i guess that we will have to wait and see.
i had a consultation with the lawyers office that i was talking about in the previous blog, they got back to me the next morning, and we went and spoke with the lawyer in the afternoon. in short, the way that she is making it sound, is exactly what me and mike were saying before we spoke with her, which is that unless i get a lawyer the case is going to remain stuck in the same place that it is now. which is going nowhere. mostly because of frankies dad and his lack of doing absoluetely anything in the case. sigh. great, just great. so she said that it would be $1750 retainer fee for her. so she did say that she would accept a payment plan for the retainer fee, which is good, because there is no way i had that all at once. so i told her that me and my boyfriend would have to work that out, and that we would call her back in the morning with the plan of what we could do. so i called her back the next morning (friday) and told them that i could do $500 down and a $100 a month, so they said that they would draw up the papers for me. and that they would call me when they were ready. so i havent heard anything yet, but it has been the weekend, and tomorrow is a holiday. so hopefully tuesday i can sign everything, give them the down payment, and get this thing started. because i really need to. for a lot of different reasons. she also said that if things proceeded without complications and that frankies dad didnt fight, that she had done simple divorces where it was only $600 or $700 dollars, so hopefully that is the case, because that way whatever isnt used of the retainer is returned to the client. (i have to confirm that with her, but that is what the definition of retainer fee is). as it is, to pay the $100 a month to her as the retainer on the payment plan, it looks like i am going to have to not pay my credit card bills, and therefore default on all of them, so there goes the credit that i was trying to work towards getting better. but right now getting a lawyer to get this done is so much more important.
mike for some reason i have no idea why, brought up an interesting subject last night, he started it off with the sentence, that if and when we got married that we were going to need to save up some money before we did. so i said to him what do you mean if, and he said that he knew that i loved living with him, but that he wasnt sure if i ever wanted to get married to him. so i asked him if we never got married if it would really upset him, and he said that it really would. and that was about it for that subject. everytime i tried to bring up the subject after that, he would try to change the subject or fall asleep or say he was tired and it wasnt the time to discuss it. so i dont know what is up with him.
on another subject, i got good news a few days ago, my aunt and uncle, who have lived at least 4 hours away from me and also my mother of course for many years, probably from before i was a teenager, has been trying to sell her house for over a year. and she wasnt able to sell it, and her contract ended with her realtor, so she took it off the market, and i think that she basically resigned herself to the fact that she just wasnt going to move. which upset us, because we wanted her to move from where she was, because it will be better financially for her and my uncle but also because she wanted to move close to me and my mom too. well the good news that we just got was that she has a contract on her house to close in a month, turns out one of the realtors remembered that she was trying to sell her house, and had an interested client, and she called my aunt and asked if she still wanted to sell it, so my aunt said yes, the lady came and saw the house, and that was that. she got the contract on it to buy it. so my aunt was looking for a house to live, near my mom, and it turns out that she found a condo that she really likes which is 2.4 miles away from me, or something insane like that. the only thing is that she got it inspected and the inspector found a mold and mildew issue from a current leak that is in the bathroom, so my aunt of course told the realtor that she wanted it fixed by the owner or she wasnt going to take it. so she is waiting to see what the owner says, she said that it was owned by an estate, and being that they are paying every month on property tax and association fees, hopefully they will just fix it and she can buy it. we will see.
what final subject and then i swear that i will be done for the day......i have less then 5 weeks to go....i think that as of today i have 33 days until my due date according to the date given to me by the ultrasound. but what annoys me is when people come up to me and say ohhh wow look at you, when are you due, or something like that, and i tell them that i am due june 27th (using the same ultrasound date) and they say wow you are so big i thought that you were ready to pop anyday now. or the ever wonderful wow you are so big, is this normal for you? is this how you were the with the other kids too? i thought you were ready to give birth anyday. sigh. there has been times i have been so ready to say yes this is normal for me, it is because i was overweight when i got pregnant this time, and i wasnt the perfect size 6 or even size 10 at the time that i got pregnant. and i can probably guarantee you that i am not going to be a size 6 at any other points in my life, it will take lots and lots of exercise and dieting just for me to get to where i was before i got pregnant with frankie (the second pregnancy). so yeah i was overweight and most of it was probably in my stomach, which might be why i look so big right now, because i have the extra body fat plus the baby tummy. i dont mind people asking when i am due, but when i tell them please stop with the comments about me being big. geez.
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