The Cheating Blog

here is a quote that i came across that i thought was interesting first:

"Women are more likely to cheat than men, finds
report."


Women are more likely to cheat on their men to gain
sexual satisfaction because of their growing
assertiveness and their equality in the workplace, say
marriage counselors. Cheating husbands, in contrast,
are increasingly looking for emotional fulfillment and
may actually mean it when they tell their secretaries
that their wives don't understand them.

Dr. Bonnie Eaker Weil, a New York marriage counselor,
said, "We're seeing the pendulum swing. Men used to
behave like jocks -- macho men who were only
interested in sex -- but now women are behaving the
same way."

and some other interesting information that i came across when all i typed into ask jeeves is why do women cheat on their husbands.....i found at least one website, i am sure that there are more though, that offers basically a service for married people who want more then just their spouse and are looking for a hookup too, and i also found some more interesting percentages which basically said that 14-40% of all married women have cheated at what time or another. those are amazing percentages to me, i cant believe the amounts of people that are cheating, and women too, generally it is men that you hear that are cheating. for example i know of two girls that i work with, who several years ago their husbands have cheated on them and actually gotten the girls that they cheated on their wives with pregnant, and then the women had the babies. i dont know which is more disturbing the fact that the guys cheated, didnt use protection, or also the fact that the girls got pregnant and then decided to keep the babies and have the guys be involved in their lives, i mean hello do you have any shame? and then the other interesting things are that one of the two girls that i know from work, she caught her husband cheating again and she is still with him. i wonder what makes people stay after they catch the other person cheating over and over again? and the other interesting thing is that the excuses that the men gave that were caught cheating or admitted that they were cheating was that they werent getting any love from their wives, they werent spending time with them, or acting like they cared about them, or having sex with them. so that seems to be trend of the reason why people these days are cheating. i asked my boyfriend if he had ever cheated on anyone that he was with, and he of course said no, which doesnt mean anything, even if you had, would you honestly admit to the person that you are with right now? probably not, because that is really something that you want to admit, and then the other person would be paranoid that you would do it again. so anyway, he said that he never had and never would, and then of course he looked at me like i was crazy for even asking that, and wondered how that subject had come up with me i suppose. but anyway.

i am not saying that i havent considered doing it, i am not even going to say that i havent thought about it lately. i had a dream a couple of days ago about having sex with my son's father, who when you get down to it is my technical husband. and it was good and seemed that it was everything that i wanted. because when you get down to it, my boyfriend isnt the greatest in bed that i have ever had, which really sucks for me. he doesnt last very long at all, generally 3-5 minutes a shot. so it makes it really difficult for me to have a "o" because i dont very long to have it in. and i cant "o" from just foreplay alone so it is really really really frustrating for me. for example yesterday morning me and my boyfriend had sex and he lasted a little longer then usual, and he did a lot of foreplay before hand, and even though he had still came really quick, he was still able to keep it going after that for a little bit so that i could get mine. and it didnt take me long too because there was a lot of foreplay and i was so turned on ahead of time. so that was a good experience, the first one that i had with him in a little while. but then to ruin things last night we got kind of hot and heavy, more with me messing with him and him being not very hands on with me, and it was new and exciting because it was somewhere other then the bed, but then we moved to the bed, and it was the same thing again, and he came really quick, and left me in the cold, and was done, so that really sucked for me. i was so disturbed that i had to pull something out of the closet to take care of myself, and i did it without him knowing because i really didnt want to draw attention to that fact. and then the other issue that i was having with him was that he didnt seem that interested in having it as much as i was, he was also saying that he was tired had to get up early for work the next day or blah blah. and it was even like i was asking for it a huge amount of time, just maybe 3-4 times a week would have been good with me. but i wasnt getting it that much, not even close. i did talk to him about all of this that i am naming and even though i have to say that quantity has been getting better, the quality still isnt making that much of a difference, it is like once he enters me it is very short lived, and i have never had to deal with that like this, and it is bothering me. so now that i have described my issues that i have been having with him and having sex, is it any wonder that i had a dream like i had? of course not. i actually talked to my sons father who was who the dream was about, i guess i was trying to feel him out about the whole thing and see if he would be interested in having sex with me still, and he of course was, and wanted too. he even understood that he would have to wear a condom in order to do that, and he was okay with that too. but i just didnt want to do that, i mean dont get me wrong one part of me really wanted too, still does, but the other part of me who sees how my boyfriend takes care of me and the kids doesnt want to do that too him. for example, yesterday he just said that he was going to be taking my car to the mechanic to get the oil changed, which would be like 25.00 and he gave me his car to take to work, i come back home from work, and see that he has vacuumed my car, scrubbed it with chemicals, bought me new floor mats, changed my wiper blades, and my air filter, and also that he had them look at my a/c and refill it with freon so that it would work better. so its like even though he has his bad points he has his really good points too.

so in short i know at least one main reason that makes women cheat on their man, husband, boyfriend, whatever they are. and that is sex, needing good sex, just wanting to have a good you know what, cause you are just not getting it at home. and then the fact that you know someone who is able to give it to you better then you are getting, is available and more then willing to do that for you. so that is a huge tempation. i am trying to seriously cope with that temptation, because even though one part of me wants to seriously just do it, and feel so much better afterward, the other part of me knows that it would be wrong and that i would have such serious regrets and guilt afterward because of how well that he treats me. so i am trying to seriously handle this temptation and not give into it.