Have I Really Been Making Bad Decisions?

My son’s father (technical husband, even though we are separated) had said to me a few days ago, when he was mad at me about the decisions that I had made, that I hadn’t thought out my decisions and that they were the wrong ones. More details about it later, but basically the decision that he was talking about was finally moving out from where we were staying and leaving him there by himself and taking the kids with me. The dog I had already given to someone to take care of, who I thought would be a good person to take care of him. So anyway, he was going on and on about how I hadn’t thought my decision through and that it was the wrong decision and now the kids were suffering for it. My daughter has excepted everything fine, my son is more of the one that is having issues with it, because for the past almost two years we were living with his daddy and he saw him everyday and now he doesn’t see him everyday, he only sees him like three and a half days out of the week, and the other three and a half days I have him in my house. Was I just being selfish in my decisions that I have made recently? I decided to uproot my children and myself from the house that we had lived in for almost two years, and away from their daddy. Not that I had any feelings for him or really miss him at all, it is just the fact that everything is so different for my kids. Even though he has helped reinforce the fact that my decision wasn’t so bad, my getting fired from yet another job yesterday, all because he said that he couldn’t keep his mouth shut anymore and let them treat him like that. So basically what that means is that he is up to his own tricks, and he is completely unemployed now. Luckily I had the intelligence to have a certified letter sent from the post office over a week and a half ago to the apartment leasing office that I had the old apartment with, stating that I am not to be held responsible for the month-to-month lease anymore, and that my name was supposed to be removed from the lease. And I received the signature card back so that shows that they had definitely received it. But regardless if he does lose the apartment I will still be stuck in a couple of different respects, for one my son is supposed to be going to preschool right now near his house, and the deal that we made is that I wouldn’t have to pay anything so that he could go there near him like he wanted, and he would work for the school to make up the money to them so he doesn’t have to pay either. Of course if he doesn’t have that place anymore then that wont happen. And also of course I will have the issue of who is going to watch him (on certain days) until he starts school the week of the 20th of this month. And then one final thing is that I left him only one thing in my name to help which was the electric with the understanding that he would give me the money in full the 1st of every month, and that if he didn’t have it that day I would then have to shut it off because I cant pay for it. So that would be a bill that I would be stuck with. Which wouldn’t be good, especially considering that the last bill that he paid was $151.00. So that is that, when I think about I guess that I don’t regret that decision to move out with the kids, because it was a long time coming, and especially seeing that it is the same thing with him all over again with him not being able to keep a job and not being able to keep his mouth shut. That just happened yesterday, so at least I guess that showed me that I should have no doubts even in the tiniest part of my mind that I made the right decision. I know that it has been a few weeks since I have updated this blog, and that is because I signed a lease with my boyfriend, yep that’s right boyfriend, on the 13th. He is 36 years old, I have actually known him for at least 7 months, and we had been going out for a month when we signed the lease. It hasn’t really been a huge adjustment, at least not for me anyway, to be living with him. He is really easy to get along with, and he gets along well with the kids. My son has been being more difficult then usual, it seems he is acting out against everything that has been going on and also he is going with what his dad is telling him, which I am sure that he is trying to poison his mind against me. Which is not right, and I said something to him about it, and he of course claims that he hasn’t said anything against me in front of him. Yeah right okay whatever. So anyway, we now have a three bedroom, me, my boyfriend, and the two kids, the kids each have their own rooms of course. My boyfriend and I are doing well, we haven’t argued or anything since we have been going out, and he treats us all really good. I have not one complaint about him. I really don’t.