Just Deal With It?

i saw my parents today, for lunch, and i mentioned to them that this whole him having his name on everything thing was still bothering me. and i was really surprised by the way that they reacted to it this time. they said that being that there was nothing that could be done about it, just to leave it alone, and basically to stop thinking about it. and my dad started talking about how he was the one that seemed to treat me the best, and he was the most responsible, mature, and the best provider for us. (out of all the guys that i have been with) and that he really didnt think that he would be the one to leave me, because he didnt seem that he was the type. so then i said well what if years down the road we arent working and i want to leave him then, and my parents said something about how they have been together for 30 years, and that there are also a lot of couples who just stay together even though they dont love each other just so they dont lose anything. and i was thinking, is that what they think i should do if that is the case? stay with him, and just deal with it, if there are no feelings there? wow, that is the complete opposite of what it is that they are usually telling me. usually they are the ones that are saying to do what makes you happy, and that as long as you are happy that nothing else matters. so that was really surprising to come from them. i am still surprised. i was so surprised that i called one of my friends to ask her opinion on it, and she thought that maybe my parents just want to see me be settled down and not keep moving around and changing things, and that is why they were saying something like that. i guess so, it is still a surprise to me. but one of the things that my parents did say i can agree with, and that was that there was no point in getting upset and all about it, being that there is nothing that i can do to change it. it is the bank that is refusing to put me on a mortgage, not him. so that is that. there is nothing that he can do to change it, so there is no reason for me to be upset with him. even though i have been trying not to act upset with him, i have been trying to just be upset in general and not take it out on him.